In the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman explains the antidote for criticism and contempt, which are two out of the four main factors that contribute to divorce. What is this miracle antidote to promoting a healthy and lasting relationship, you ask? Fondness and admiration!
Following is a quote from Dr. Gottman’s book:
“Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long-lasting romance. Although happily married couples may feel driven to distraction at times by their partner’s personality flaws, they still feel that the person they married is worthy of honor and respect. When this sense is completely missing from a marriage, the relationship cannot be revived” (Gottman & Silver, 1999).
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Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work . New York, NY: Three Rivers Press.
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